9 Reasons to Engage My Services!
From time to time, people have asked me, why should people collaborate with me as opposed to engaging in the traditional “lawyering up” method. If you and your spouse/partner are committed to separating or divorcing, I will give you nine reasons to engage me, a Professional, collaboratively trained, Financial Neutral.
- Whereas most people have no training in conflict management, working in a collaborative setting with professionals who are, means you do not have to be alone!
- Whereas most people have no training in how to “fight fair,” working in a collaborative setting establishes the rules as to how all parties will solve the problems identified by both you and your spouse.
- Families can develop a plan that is customized for their unique needs.
- You get to frame the financials in a practical way. This can be immensely helpful to the partner who may not be as savvy with the family finances as the other person.
- Ideally, the collaborative process includes me as the Financial Neutral, a family professional (counsellors, social workers, pastors) and collaboratively trained lawyers – one for each person who is separating.
- There can be significant cost effectiveness. Litigation can be a costly affair due to legal fees, court costs and potential appeals. In contrast, the collaborative process often proves to be a more cost-effective approach.
- There is more confidentiality and privacy. In litigation, proceedings are a matter of public record. The collaborative process offers a way to stay out of the public eye.
- Separation and Divorce is incredibly stressful and emotionally draining. By adding litigation to the mix, people and their families often end up sick and tired. The collaborative process on the other hand, fosters a cooperative environment that encourages open dialogue and active problem solving.
- Court-imposed decisions rarely yield higher satisfaction results. Collaborative agreements tend to yield higher satisfaction rates that often stand the test of time.
In a previous blog post, I had referenced, the work of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, a Swiss American psychologist who identified five stages of grief. These stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance, are common to couples and families that experience separation and divorce.
The question can be posed then, if you are going through this “valley of the shadow,” then with whom and how do you want to journey this path? In a litigious way or in a creative way with supportive professionals?
If you want to discuss your needs, do not hesitate to reach out to me through my website.